Here's what you should be doing friday and saturday night:
I am psyched for this show. Hamburger Mary's has frozen alcoholic drinks that come out of slushi machines. I don't know how it could get any better.
Also, from June 20th through June 23rd me and Cameron Esposito will be in Boston! Then we're taking the chinatown bus up to New York, where we'll be until June 27th! So if you are in Boston or New York email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) and I'll get you the show information. I'll post it here to, but if you email me it'll light a fire under my ass to ask for that info.
Now: Sex and the City comes out today. By the end of the weekend I will have seen this movie. Don't spoil it for me.
Lots of "Sex" hatred, but generally not among the women I know. Yes, a lot of the show was a consumer fairytale, although that's every show on tv, so I don't know why "Sex" is special in that regard.
I think what is pro-woman about "Sex" is that the female characters were allowed to have flaws without being train wrecks. Those women could be really obnoxious, and they all created many humiliating situations for themselves. Which is WHAT I DO, and that's why I love the show. But despite all the falling on their faces, they all continued to be just fine.
And as for the characters being obsessed with their relationships? Women should be obsessed with their heterosexual relationships. The moment you stop being vigilant about that is the moment you end up in a harem in Antarctica. Constant monitoring and careful thought about what kind of bullshit he's trying to spring on you is called for. And yes, you will fall for that bullshit over and over and over. That is just par for the course when you bone dudes.
And what else are women supposed to be obsessed with? Our jobs? Our boring, pointless, soul-numbing jobs? Men aren't obsessed with their jobs. They're obsessed with collecting DVD's and what CMJ is saying about some band they vaguely know. The ones that act like they're obsessed with their jobs are actually obsessed with whether other people see them as powerful.
I relate most to the character of Miranda. Miranda could never pull off sexy like the other women, and was accomplished enough that she believed it shouldn't matter to her, but then of course not being sexy bothered her. Remember the episode where she started telling men she was a flight attendant, because when she told them she was a lawyer they stopped being interested? And the episode where she met the couple who posted an ad for a third in a threesome, got the affirmation that they indeed were attracted to her, and then left? Goddamnit I relate. When you are not a sexpot character you try so hard to master the role.
I think the main theme to the show was women trying to force themselves into roles it appears they should be perfect for, and then having it all blow up in their face, and figuring out who they actually are from those failures. Charlotte's first marriage, Carrie's move to Paris, Samantha's countless sexual humilations. People accuse the show of glamorizing casual sex, but almost every instance of sex ended with some funny embarassment. When Carrie got broken up with by Berger with a post it note, and then tried to be cool to his friends in a bar, but ended up freaking out and coming off as a psycho? If that hasn't happened to me already, it will at some point. I probably just blocked out the memory.
If you leave a woman around my age in an apartment with the DVD's of that show, she will eventually watch the whole show in a three day marathon. And no, most of us could give two shits about the shoes.